We’ve all seen the pictures, and we’ve all heard the stories about the mothers who have finally found THE CARRIER. You know the one, the one that guarantees that your child will fall asleep… because it has been blessed by magical pixies sprinkling dust as they race across swards and green fields on unicorns. It makes you wonder, well, why does my child cry? Why is my child not sleeping? Where is my blessed (*&#%$^) sparkly dust?
And isn’t that just the thing that every single children’s product would like you to believe they can do? Make your child stop crying? Have you seen the diaper commercials – those slay me. There is the child lying peacefully in its crib, mobile spinning gently, in a light shirt, wearing a disposable diaper. I used cloth, so I never had disposables in the house. Making me wonder if I missed out on something good – what is in that plastic? WHAT IS IN THAT PLASTIC? (Seriously, should I be slapping one of those somewhere on my body and sit back and dream of Genie?)
The truth of the matter is that crying is normal. All babies do it. It is the only way they have to let you know that something is making them uncomfortable, that something needs changing, that maybe they are hungry, have a dirty bum, are gassy, are too hot, too cold, too something.
Babywearing is great because the proximity effect increases and improves communication between parent and child. It does not erase crying. There are some nights you will go down your check list and you will find what is bothering your child immediately. Other nights, you will try things a million ways and still have a crying child on your hands. And that is okay. You are learning each other, you are becoming in-tune with your baby’s needs, and just as friendship between adults isn’t an instantaneous process, neither is the relationship you will develop between you and your child.
Plus, then there’s just the plain truth of the matter – some babies just cry more than others.
President & CEO Babywearing in Canada
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